I have been putting something back into practice this week that I had forgotten about for a while, focusing on what I have, rather than what I don't have, with the twist that I have been treating myself in the way that I long to be treated by a partner/lover.
A practice in daily gratitude, in other words.
It has really helped me to re-frame how I view my life, which as it turns out, is pretty damn fabulous!
Lately I have felt like I have been missing out on the things that those in relationships have, things like romantic dinners, cuddles, conversations, support, love, etc, etc.
So instead of feeling glum about not having one of those things, each time I've felt the need to do something like that, I've given it to myself as a gift instead. I took myself out to a romantic dinner, and took photos of each scrumptious dish as it arrived, shared it on Twitter, had a bit of a conversation with those that replied, then lost myself in my book, enjoying every single moment and every delightful interaction with the owners of that little family-run restaurant.
I've met new people at Christmas events and given myself the gift of recognising how I was the one they sought out to meet, and how much they enjoyed my company and conversation. Yes, I allowed myself to see that. It was an eye opener. Instead of waiting for a compliment from a partner to point out how my company is enjoyed, I gave that gift to myself.
I can say with total conviction that I feel supported in every way in my life at the moment. And isn't that a fabulous way to feel? Conversely, I feel my support so much more appreciated and gratitude has been my reward.
A practice in daily gratitude, in other words.
It has really helped me to re-frame how I view my life, which as it turns out, is pretty damn fabulous!
Lately I have felt like I have been missing out on the things that those in relationships have, things like romantic dinners, cuddles, conversations, support, love, etc, etc.
So instead of feeling glum about not having one of those things, each time I've felt the need to do something like that, I've given it to myself as a gift instead. I took myself out to a romantic dinner, and took photos of each scrumptious dish as it arrived, shared it on Twitter, had a bit of a conversation with those that replied, then lost myself in my book, enjoying every single moment and every delightful interaction with the owners of that little family-run restaurant.
I've met new people at Christmas events and given myself the gift of recognising how I was the one they sought out to meet, and how much they enjoyed my company and conversation. Yes, I allowed myself to see that. It was an eye opener. Instead of waiting for a compliment from a partner to point out how my company is enjoyed, I gave that gift to myself.
I can say with total conviction that I feel supported in every way in my life at the moment. And isn't that a fabulous way to feel? Conversely, I feel my support so much more appreciated and gratitude has been my reward.
you're kind of amazing
ReplyDeletex Tess
In the spirit of this post - Thank You xx
ReplyDeleteI'm always reminded of how good my life is when I see others struggling with very big problems..at the moment I have a friend who is hiding from an abusive husband, she has 4 kids and no money and my neighbour will most probably pass away today from cancer. He is my age and has teenage kids. I am focusing on the absence of big problems for now and I am thankful for this time. Who knows what's ahead for any of us. Your post made me smile -thanks Tash.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing that Heather, what a sad state of affairs. I have gone through troubling times, and it helps to compare those times to what I currently think are "uncomfortable" situations. The two do NOT compare.
ReplyDeleteGlad it made you smile as well :)
I'm a little bit in love with you
ReplyDeleteWell now, that just ticks off yet ANOTHER thing to be grateful about. Looking forward to a cuddle xx
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